Purity of Submission

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Purity - free from what harms, vitiates, weakens or pollutes; faultless and uncontaminated - perfect.

How to be pure? Especially with the context or layer of yet another abstract concept - submission. The idea that there exists a state of submissive perfection presents a situation of requiring measurement of the nature of submission itself. This again requires a concrete definition of what submission is, a definition that is understood and accepted universally as the one true definition. The additional issue which should not be overlooked is the establishment of 'levels' of submission. Intrinsically this means that certain individuals would be told that their submissive expression is of an inferior type, making them inferior to some 'perceived perfection standard'. These types of measurement systems are inevitably created and brought into existence in order to assault the mental well-being of the individual.

After all, who is the judge? Do we create an independent panel to dictate these measurement systems or do we rely on the viewpoint of the dominant within a submissives life to identify and pigeonhole the level of the submissives expression of their nature. Or perhaps, we form yet another 'societal standard' within our own community to express through elevation or condemnation the manner, shape or form of those we allow within our community as 'members'. In this way we can once again find a way to discriminate against the diversity of human expression.

It is possible to theorize about the removal of all aspects of the personality or character of the individual which harm, vitiate, weaken or pollute the 'submissive ideal'. However, in any practical application it becomes simply another venue to chastise or punish a person for the variations within their internal self. An individual may choose to embrace certain aspects of their personality and behaviors but this does not remove other aspects from existence. The diversity within the individual personality functions to act on the behalf of the individual when that individual is presented with a situation or event which can best be handled or managed by that aspect. Removal or damage of any aspect of the self may impair or damage the individual's ability to respond to difficult event's or situations with the best tools available within themselves and may result in a reduction of that individual's overall mental health.

There is no form or established standard of measure which can define a state of perfection which would be understood and agreed upon by all individuals. This attempt to create or levy a standard upon a submissive in many ways diminishes the essence of the submissive. What is a state of created perfection exists within the intermingling of the dominant and the submissive as they interact within each other to create a singular union. To find the combination which complements, enhances, amplifies, elevates or transcends the sum of it's individual parts is the ultimate challenge. No two submissives will be similar in any way beyond surface commonalties which are found within the generalized groups of humankind. Each submissive is unique, with a different history and viewpoint on the world as they see it. The nature of the sense of submission within them may express as a form of dominant mothering, sistering, or wife/husband management when these aspects are experienced by the submissive to be in service to the union that is the relationship. If the submissive views these actions as necessary, helpful and positive construction they will experience them with the same type of fulfillment and joy as they would more intimate or sexual submissive actions. What appears to be submissive does not mean it is, and the reverse is equally true.

To achieve a state of purity requires that the individual dominant and individual submissive engage in comprehensive conversation and communication defining what that state of purity or perfection is (for them). In large part they must construct a language in order to have this communication take place outside of abstract evaluations which do not clarify or pinpoint areas of issue or problems. It is simply not enough to tell a submissive that they are not measuring up when there is no concrete information which that submissive can understand to identify in what way their perceived failure has occurred. Failures do not occur within the manifest expressions of behavior that are visible on the outside. What you see is the conclusion of the exercise. Thought and decision making processes are what culminate in behaviors or visible actions. It is within these internal thought processes that the submissive determines and decides what their truth is and how they will express that to those close to them. In this regard no action is forgivable nor in requirement of forgiveness. To forgive would be to negate the truth as expressed. Demonstrations of truth as communicated through action should be viewed with integrity. To approach a 'pure' state the individual must see their personal truth's and hold those truth's as true for themselves within that moment of their life. The removal of internal deceit summons serenity which in my viewpoint is where the true essence of each submissive exists at it's most complete. A submissive who has attained this state will find no reason to defend themselves since all of the parts of themselves are existing together nor find the need or desire within themselves to attack or offend others, they are no longer able to be threatened.

All measurements are of human creation. This makes them subjective, capable of being driven by motivations not necessarily visible on the surface. It is not necessary to create new means for the diminishment of others, we have enough of those already. The more we seek to solidify position, role or label, the easier it is to be abusive of others using these labels as a means to justify our actions.

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