Only A Submissive

Written by SteelSkys

August 22, 2000

I can almost bet, this little article will not make any brownie points with many Dominant's. But you see, this article isn't about making "brownie" points with them. And personally, many of you know, I don't care if every Dominant or Submissive agrees with my thought's or not. For they are MY thought's and I DO have a right to express them :)

This article is about Submissive's who at times DO feel; " I'm only a Submissive, I have no rights to voice my opinion, Ds is only about making the Dominant happy, my feeling's doesn't matter" and many other feelings a Submissive may have but are not always spoken, due to the fear of losing his/her Dominant.

A Submissive should not EVER have to feel these feelings. And if the Submissive DOES have these feelings, they damn well, have EVERY right to express them.

A Submissive works very hard to ear his/her Collar. They work very hard trying to please that Dominant. To become worthy of Him or Her. They are to obey the Dominant's commands. Examples, when to go to bed, writing journals, told who to block online or not to block and there are many more examples I could give but, I was only giving a few for "example" sake <g>.

A Submissive wants nothing more than to please his/her Dominant. And I do mean, the Submissive himself/herself pleasing his/her Dominant. NOT someone else pleasing Him or Her. And in the same token, a Dominant is to please his/her Submissive as well. NOT someone else pleasing YOUR Submissive. And when I use the word "pleasing, " I do not mean sexually but in EVERY way.

When a Dominant cares enough about a Submissive, to make any type of commitment, this commitment SHOULD be respected by ALL. Other Dominant's and Submissive's as well. We all see everyday how a Dominant is protective of her Submissive and doesn't want other Dominant's trying to "Step In ." But to be BLUNT here, the Submissive's feel the same damn way!!. They are protective of their Dominant, they love their Dominant and it hurt's them terribly for someone else trying to "Step In ."

I do not feel in any way that this is a Submissive trying to "Control" their Dominant...
But simply a Submissive having a Heart and feelings and fears and extreme amount of LOVE for their Dominant. It would be an awful feeling for a Dominant to have a Submissive that doesn't love them. And with loving them, brings all the other feelings out.

How many Dominant's or Submissive's would want to be committed to someone they don't love? I know I wouldn't!

SUBMISSIVES, you have a right to voice your opinions. You have a right to PROTECT your Dominant. You have a right to hurt. And you have a right to love and cherish your Dominant over ANYTHING. And this does apply to the DOMINANT as well.

Ds/BDSM is NOT only about the Dominant's feelings!
Ds/BDSM is NOT only about the Submissive's feelings!
Ds/BDSM is about caring, cherishing, loving, protecting and standing by
EACH OTHER!

A Dominant's feelings ARE important but by God...
A Submissive's feelings are JUST as important as a Dominants.