Dominance and submission

And now we come to the two defining roles within a scene, that of the Dominant and the submissive. This, to many people, is the defining part of the Lifestyle. It tells whom commands and who serves and provides the first floor of any building created between two people, figuratively speaking of course. Within a scene, roles have to be defined and, in most cases, it is through determining which of the two words above apply to you that this is determined.

Within each role come certain responsibilities that have to be maintained. Both people within the situation are there for enjoyment and mutual exploration--or they should be in my opinion. One should not be there simply to impose abject terror on the other or to humiliate and embarrass their partner if that is not something that the partner wishes.

Dominant Responsibilities

1. Respect the Limits of your Partner
2. Always respect safe words when they're used
3. Regardless of use of safe words, always check with your partner during the course of the scene
4. Remain within the negotiated parameters of the Scene even is your submissive is begging for something outside of it.
5. Always remember to be Safe, Sane, and Consensual

submissive Responsibilities

1. Never go into a Scene with someone you don't trust 100%
2. Remember your Safe Words and don't be afraid to use them
3. Keep the flow of information open between you and your Dom. If necessary, work out non-verbal signs and answers ahead of time
4. Always remember to be Safe, Sane, and Consensual

The interaction between the Dominant and the submissive can be extremely rewarding as everything is kept to where one isn't feeling uncomfortable.

I can't speak for everyone, but I know that if I sense that the submissive isn't enjoying the situation or is feeling uncomfortable, it ceases to be enjoyable for me as well. Bringing terror and psychological or physical discomfort to someone (assuming that pain wanted is not uncomfortable) is not what gives me a rush during a Scene. It's establishing a rapport and link with the submissive and bringing them the sensations they crave and pulling them deeper into their Head Space. If they're worried about trusting me or if I'm going to step over a line or something of that nature, then it ceases to be fun for either of us.