About BDSM

Table of Contents

This is the menu to a six-part introduction to basic BDSM terms and concepts. Covered topics are:

Part 1: Introduction to BDSM

• What is BDSM?
  • Scenes, Play, Tops, and Bottoms: A Bit of Vocabulary
  • What is vanilla sex?
• What are B&D, D&S, and S&M?
  • Overview
  • What is B&D (Bondage and Discipline)?
  • What is D&S (Domination and Submission)?
    (including: Does DS involve standardized rules? What is Gorean Play? Are folks doing BDSM just acting out roles? What is Total Power Exchange [TPE]?)
  • What is S&M (Sadism and Masochism)?

Part 2: Safety and BDSM

• Emotional and Physical Safety
  • Is BDSM Sick?
  • Safe Technique, Safe Sex, SSC, and More
  • Net Vs. Real Life Relationships: Is It Safe to Meet a New Partner?
• Tools of Consent
  • Communication
  • Aftercare
  • Safeword
  • Negotiations and Limits
  • Contracts

Part 3: Heavier Aspects of BDSM

• The Appeal of Darkness
  • Consensual Nonconsensuality
  • Rape Scenes, Forced Sex, Overpowerment, and Abduction Scenes
  • Death and BDSM
  • Tops and Anger in Scene
• Emotional and Financial Dependency
  • Emotional Degradation and Emotional Subjection
  • Blackmail and Financial Subjection

Part 4: Therapy and Behavioral Modification in BDSM

• Therapeutic Play
  • Reinforcing Positive Self-Images and Insights into Oneself
  • Behavioral Reform
  • Cathartic Experiences in Scene
  • Breaking in Scene
  • Rage in Scene
• Conditioning from Extreme Play

Part 5: Partners and Parties

• Multi-Person Relationships and BDSM
  • Choices, choices: Polyamory and monogamy in BDSM relationships
  • BDSM Versus Swinging
• BDSM Events and Gatherings
  • What Are Munches?
  • What is a Playparty?
  • Flagging, Collars, Leather: BDSM Fashion
  • The Scene Community

Part 6: Tools, Toys, and Techniques

• Signal Whips
• Nipple Clamps
• Knives, Knife Play, and Cuttings
• Cleaning and Disinfecting: Caring for Wounds and Sterilizing Exposed Toys

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