Sensual SpankingBy MstrTristanBDSM CuriositySensual Spanking is an enjoyable experience that can be shared between a Dominate and their submissive. Sensual spanking is meant to give pleasure not to be used as punishment. There are many important pieces to a good sensual spanking. Always test your tools before you use them on another. Learn how they feel and the affects they can have by testing them on yourself first. This is very important because you don't want to hurt your submissive. The easiest things to start with would be your hand or a wooden spoon, brush, or small paddle. These are the easiest to control and are capable of minimal damage during a spanking. Experiment with different items and textures and the sensations they can cause. As with most things involved in the lifestyle, mental anticipation plays a big part in the experience. Start by reminding them of the spanking you are going to give them. Tell them what you are planning and the tools you will be using. Describe bits of the event. This can start days ahead of time. Make sure that it never leaves their thoughts. The anticipation of what is to come will heighten the experience immensely. So now the moment is at hand and your ready to whack away. Not quite yet. You need to find a position for your spanking. Although there is no best or worst way to do this there are some things you need to consider first. As the Spanker, you need to find a position that is comfortable to you and does not restrict the swinging movement of your arm and your chosen tool and will allow you to be relaxed and comfortable for the duration of the spanking. Your submissive should also be kept in a comfortable position that exposes their bottom to the fruits of your swing. Their position should also allow them to relax comfortably for the duration of the spanking so they can more easily concentrate on the sensations they will experience. So now you are all in position and you have practiced along with teasing your submissive all day. Now its time to start the spanking and enjoy the fruit of your work. Start off lightly and watch the behavior and expressions of your submissive. This will be the biggest showing of whether it is enjoyable or painful. After each stroke I recommend gently rubbing the area of contact. This creates a nice contrast of sensations for the submissive. Move around with the striking and alter the rythm of your swing. Experiment carefully with the force of the strike and move the point of contact around there bottom. Striking the same spot repeatedly no matter how light can turn from pleasure to pain easily so move it around. Make sure to strike only there bottom and upper thighs. Striking outside this area no matter how easily can be hazardous with a paddle or brush. Make sure not to strike any areas that are starting to bruise or are turning a white bloodless color. After a spanking is finished it is often a good idea to go over the area with ice or a nice cool lotion. Not only does it feel good after a nice heated spanking but its a fun way to move play to other activities. Spend some time hugging and cuddling afterwards. All these are an exellent way to show that their submission has pleased you. |