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2 Hands Fisting Malicious Masquerade, October 28, 2001 2 Hands Fisting

FISTING: to me, fisting - be it anal or vaginal - is the most intimate and the most intense form of lovemaking. While there are some similarities between anal and vaginal fisting, there are also many differences.

Anal and vaginal fisting both require from:

  1. Top and bottom : time, patience, empathy, and trust.
  2. Top : ability to LISTEN to and give FULL attention to the bottom, a good manicure (!), LUBE, LUBE, LUBE, and homework - understand the anatomy involved, read the resource books/articles, check the Internet for fisting FAQs, etc.
  3. bottom : homework (same as the Top's), ability to communicate clearly and openly with the Top, and willingness to be vulnerable, for the Top truly holds the bottom's heart and health in his/her hand.

Fisting books (available on the Internet from Amazon):

  1. Anal : Primary resource book: Trust, The Hand Book (A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing), by Bert Herrman (©1991 by Bert Herrman. Alamo Square Press, P.O. Box 14543, San Francisco, CA 94114). SKIM: Anal Pleasure & Health, by Jack Morin, Ph.D. (©1981, revised 1986, by Jack Morin. Yes Press, 938 Howard Street #101, San Francisco, CA 94103).
  2. Vaginal : Only resource book of which I'm aware is: A Hand in the Bush: The line Art of Vaginal Fisting, by Deborah Addington. (©1997 by Deborah Addington. Greenery Press, 3739 Balboa Avenue #105, San Francisco, CA 94121).
  3. Anal play in general, with a mention of fisting : The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, by Tristan Taormino, and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men, by Bill Brent. (Both published by Clefs Press, PO Box 14684, San Francisco, CA 94114).

Other- Fisting Resources:
 Anal : There are many fisting (aka "handballing") websites, including (but not limited to!):

http://www.winternet.com/~redright/redright.html

To order J-Lube: eNASCO On-Line Catalogs Worldwide Service To Education, Health, Agriculture, Industry then search by keyword for "J-Lube."

Anal and vaginal : FeISTyman has a heterosexual fisting website ( www.fistingsex.com ). Yahoo! has several clubs devoted to fisting; I'm a co-founder of the "Ladies and Gents Fisting Society".

Vaginal : Very comprehensive six-page article, "Mama's Got a Squeeze Box, Daddy Never Sleeps at Night: An Article about Vaginal Fisting," by Pat Califia. Sandmutopia Guardian, Issue #15. Their web site, www.aswgt.com , indicates that a facsimile copy of Issue #15 may be ordered for $12. ).

Vaginal : Short two-page article, "Fisting Part I: The Cunt" by the (unknown to me) author of a column called "The Practicing Pervert." Taste of Latex, Issue #5. ).

Ordering Supplies Online : To order latex and nitrite gloves, especially the WAY COOL Purple Nitrite extra long gloves, go to http://www.safeskin.com/glove_mat_ster.asp , write down the catalogue number for the gloves you want, and then call Laboratory Supply Company at (800) 888-5227. To order Eros on the Internet (generally cheaper than stores): Condom Express- Personal Lubricants Index Page ).

Specific medical questions are non judgmentally answered by Chicago's Howard Brown Health Center, (773) 388-1600. Don't worry; they've heard it all!

Preparation for anal and vaginal fisting

Affects Vaginal Fisting Anal Fisting
Top and bottom Anatomy of the vagina, including how it and the cervix change during sexual excitement Anatomy of the lower digestive system, which includes the rectum and the colon
Top Give yourself a VERY good manicure, cutting our nails VERY short Give Yourself a VERY good manicure, cutting your nails VERY short
bottom No need to douche or prepare A thorough plain-tap-water enema several hours before play may be self administered or done by the Top as part of a pre-fisting scene. Be sure to use a bottom-specific enema kit or nozzle, a disposable enema kit, or disposable enema bottles (just be sure to replace the medicated solution in the bottle with warm tap water)
bottom Shaving the pubic area may make things easier, but it's not necessary Shaving around the anus may make things easier, but it's not necessary
bottom No dietary restrictions Read the description in Trust about foods to be avoided during the time before playing

Supplies required for anal and vaginal fisting

Type of Fisting (or Play) Supply Item Reason
Anal, vaginal, and/or oral Hibiclens ® Minimizes risk if you're going to do any rimming (oral/anal contact)
Anal, vaginal, and/or oral Listerine ® Minimizes risk if you're going to do oral/vaginal contact (cunnilingus) after rimming
Anal and/or vaginal Gloves LOTS of different types of gloves are available: latex, nitrite, vinyl, etc. - so latex allergies are not an excuse to avoid gloves!
Anal and/or vaginal Disposable underpads, paper towels (lots!), cloth towels, baby wipes, etc. Cleanup -fisting is MESSY fun!!!
Anal and/or vaginal Dawn ® or detergent Grease-remover for cleanup
Anal Lube Many lubes work; experiment! (I use a combination of Crisco® with Eros® and/or J-Lube®
Anal Plastic turkey baster GREAT for injecting J-Lube ® deep into rectum! Be sure to file off all rough edges, and it is not the one for thanksgiving.
Vaginal Lube Many tubes work; experiment! (I prefer Eros ®)
Anal and/or vaginal Something to drink Both the Top and bottom can get very thirsty. Make sure to have liquid (water, Gatorade ®, soda, etc.) easily available - and in containers that won't break if your greasy hands cause you to drop them! A flexible straw is a nice touch, too
Type of Fisting (or Play) Comment
Anal, vaginal and/or oral There is very little risk of HIV transmission from rimming - but there is a risk of bacterial and parasitic infections, and there are a few things you can do to minimize those risks. Other than abstinence, the safest way, of course, is to avoid direct contact by using a dental dam, or plastic wrap. The next safest course is a sensual clean up of the bottom's anus. Using warm water, paper towels, and Hibiclens®, gently clean the outside and just inside the anus (the places your tongue will reach). If you plan on doing a lot of anal play, consider getting the Hepatitis A and B vaccines; check with your physician, or a community health care facility like Chicago's Howard Brown Health Center.
Anal, vaginal and/or oral A female cannot go from anal to vaginal play without gloves, condom, etc., being changed, or she risks vaginal infections; same with oral contact. After rimming a female, swish some Listerine® in your mouth before you perform cunnilingus.
Anal and/or vaginal The bottom may find that fisting is sometimes slightly-to-very uncomfortable and may perhaps feel a twinge of pain now and then. If fisting becomes painful at any time, though, the bottom MUST immediately tell the Top. Properly done fisting is NOT PAINFUL. One thing I find helps: the Top needs to keep reminding the bottom to breathe, to take deep breaths, to relax. The Top needs to be VERY aware of the bottom's body Anal and body language, ready to slow down or stop, and/or vaginal. A little bit of blood after fisting or playing with anal or vaginal toys is not uncommon. If, however, there is a lot of blood, or bright red blood that doesn't stop quickly, GO TO AN EMERGENCY ROOM IMMEDIATELY. Do not hesitate; better to be safe than sorry. They have heard and seen it all before!
Anal and/or vaginal In my opinion, gloves are MANDATORY, because: (i) if the Top has the slightest cut or hangnail, it can be contaminated by minute amounts of feces, leading to blood poisoning and other unpleasantness; and (ii) the slightest jagged nail or hangnail will feel like a razor in the bottom's insides. I've been told that women with long nails can pad the tips of their nails, inside the gloves, with cotton balls, but I've never tried that - I just keep my nails short. Latex gloves are available at your local pharmacy in small, medium and large - be sure to use the appropriate size! Nitrite gloves, including very long ones, are available from Nasco; nitrite gloves are great if either the Top or the bottom has a latex allergy.
Anal and/or vaginal It's not a good idea to share intimate toys, but if you are going to share a dildo, put a condom on it, then clean it in a bleach solution - or put it in the dishwasher!
Anal and/or vaginal FOREPLAY : LOTS!! Start slow and sensuous. Touch your partner all over. Get your partner HOT. Oral sex and/or rimming work VERY well to heat up a bottom - and it's MUCH easier to fist a HOT, hungry bottom!
Anal and/or vaginal Baby wipes are handy for getting the first layer of grease off when you're done! Dawn® dishwashing detergent will help on the towels, etc.
Anal and/or vaginal Anal and/or vaginal Eros® is my first preference for vaginal fisting, and my third preference for anal fisting. It's rather expensive. I transfer it to another bottle with a flip top. LUBE!
Anal and/or vaginal Make sure the lube is in a bottom-specific container, or that you're not touching the opening to the lube's container once you've begun fisting. LUBE, LUBE!
Anal and/or vaginal You may have to stop for the bottom to take a bathroom break. As the Top's hand goes in farther, there will be increased pressure on the bladder. If the bottom can empty his/her bladder, there's more room for the Top's hand.
Anal and/or vaginal Fisting is MESSY fun! Have lots of towels handy -paper towels and cloth towels (but not your company-best towels!) to clean up all that LUBE!
Anal No matter how well the bottom has cleaned out, you may encounter feces. Don't make a fuss, or both of you will get nervous, and the bottom will tighten up. Just let the bottom take a bathroom break. change the underpad, change gloves, and keep on fisting!
Anal Crisco® should be in a bottom-specific container. Or, using a clean spoon or hands in gloves that have not yet touched anything else, scoop enough for a fisting session and transfer it to a disposable (or dishwasher-safe) container. I find it works best to use Crisco® around the anal opening, and then use both Crisco® and/or other lube(s) to coat (and recoat) my gloves. Remember: LUBE, LUBE, LUBE!
Anal J-Lube ® is my preference for extended anal fisting. It's a very inexpensive powder that you mix with water. It may be refrigerated for about a week or frozen indefinitely. I prefer to mix it just before use in a big metal dishwasher-safe bowl. I keep it on a small table immediately next to where we're playing, so I can dip my hands and immediately insert them. I keep a towel on the floor and on everything I might drip on. This is MESSY - but VERY effective! I've also mixed a batch, frozen it in ice cube trays, transferred some cubes to a freezer bag, and then 1 defrost a few hours before playing. NOTE: J-Lube® is dextrose-based, so it should NOT be used with a bottom who is diabetic. LUBE, LUBE, LUBE!

Have Fun - and Play Safe!!!

Mistress Joanne

(C) 2001 by Mistress Joanne C. Gaddy