Whip Me, Beat Me, Take Me Home

Hints for First Time Meetings

By: Mistress Norische

Hint 1: Know the person you are planning on sceneing with, before you allow them to tie you up and beat you.

Hint 2: Make your first scene a safe scene, by this I mean the safest place to scene would be at a group function where friends are near just in case, if this option is unavailable or undesired then arrange a safe call, and let others know what is going on.

Hint 3: If a question is not asked, that you feel should be covered then volunteer any pertinent information, the worst incidents are caused by lack of knowledge.

Hint 4: You always have the right to say "No!" Do not be pressured into doing something that you do not wish to do.

Hint 5: If things don't "feel" right follow your instincts and postpone the sceneing until another day. Here are some examples of basic questions that should be asked before sceneing, this is by no means a complete list. Everyone has specific things that they feel to be important and necessary to know, and some feel that they honestly don't care as long as they get to beat someone. Use those questions that you feel helpful, add a few of your own, and discard those that you find to be unnecessary.

What is your name or nickname?
Are you "with" someone and if so do you have permission to play?
What are your preferred activities?
What are your limits?
Do you use safe words, and if so what are they?
Do you have any medical issues that may pose a safety issue during a scene, such as pregnancy, diabetes, low blood sugar, asthma, allergies, etc.?
Have you taken any medication within the last 24-48 hours, if so what and what was it for?
Have you consumed any alcohol if so when and how much?
Do you have any injuries or no hit zones, if so where?
Do you have any reservations to marks or marking, if so what?
Do you like to have music during a scene, if so what kind?
Do you want aftercare, if so what do you prefer?
Do you wish to be nude, clothed or in costume?
Do you like communication during a scene?