Making The Grade (2)

Evaluation of Your submissive

By Norische

This is a list set up to aide in the communication of abilities and performance, and to clarify the expectations of the Dominant for the submissive.

Instructions:

Periodically, I suggest twice a year, go through and answer the questions below honestly and with as much deliberation as possible. Remember to consider the individuals performance on a whole, and not focus on one or two days out of the time allotted. In the comments section, please be as thorough as possible, remember if you want an individual to change his or her behavior you must first show them that you are dissatisfied, then you must inform him or her of the behavior expected, and finally inform the individual of how they can meet your expectations. Remember the more information you give the easier it is for the submissive to meet your expectations and to grow.

As you choose each topic, pick the appropriate "grade" you feel the submissive deserves. Please utilize the additional space to make comments or suggestions for the submissive. There are three open areas at the end of this list, utilize this section to put your own specific topic in it, something that is important to you as an individual, such as humor, spirituality, sexuality, voice tone, alertness, or detail oriented…each time you fill out this form these topics may change, use this space to expand and explore the possibilities.

Authority

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant exhibit an air ofauthority?

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Control

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant know how to takecontrol, and know how to use said power?

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Discipline

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant reinforce rules and behaviorswith appropriate discipline?

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Aptitude

N/A

Example: Does the individual have the necessary skills to bea Dominant?

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Knowledge

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant have the knowledge andunderstanding of what a Dominant is, and what is expected of him or her?

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Communication

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant communicate well, and encouragethe submissive to do the same?

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Active Listening

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant really listen to what thesubmissive has to say, and show interest?

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Honesty

N/A

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Openness

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant open and willing toanswer questions?

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Discretion

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant discrete when appropriate and takeinto consideration the feelings of individuals not in thelifestyle?

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Respect

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant respect the sub, and treat him orher with respect?

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Emotional Stability

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant emotionally stabile, or seeking the properassistance and/or medication?

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Attitude

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant have the appropriateattitude, and encourage a stabile environment?

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Self Esteem

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant have good self esteem and exhibitpride and a strong sense of self?

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Focus

N/A

Example: Can the Dominate remained focused on one thing whenapplicable?

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Observant

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant observant, specifically of thesubmissive and his or her behaviors, wants and needs?

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Initiative

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant use initiative in the manner inwhich he or she treats the submissive?

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Ingenuity

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant creative and use ingenuity in themanner in which he or she treats the submissive?

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Organization

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant organized andencourages an environment that includes orderand logic?

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Adaptable

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant adaptable, and sees each newproblem as a challenge to be resolved?

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Tolerant

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant tolerant of others including theuniqueness of the submissive, as well as others, as opposedto being judgmental?

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Decisiveness

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant sure of his or her decisions, andis not wishy-washy?

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Independence

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant independent and capable of takingcare of him or herself when the sub is otherwise occupied?

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Reliability

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant reliable, someone you can count on?

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Consistency

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant consistent, both with his or herbehavior and with his or her actions towards others?

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Dependability

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant dependable and someone that if heor she says they will do something that they will doeverything in their power to do it?

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Patience

N/A

Example: Is the Dominant patient and understanding with thesubmissive?

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Manners

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant exhibit proper manners?

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Etiquette

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant understand proper etiquette andutilize it as appropriate?

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Appearance

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant maintain a proper appearance;this does include cleanliness?

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Health/Fitness

N/A

Example: Does the Dominant maintain good health, takes medication as directed, and seeks medical assistance when applicable?

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N/A

Example:

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N/A

Example:

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N/A

Example:

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Things that you would like to see improved…

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Goal…

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Improvements and Acknowledgements

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Dominant
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Submissive
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The above is a listing of basic abilities and capabilities, each individual is different and the requirements of each Dominant is different. This list is not designed to judge anyone it is designed to assist in communication and encourage growth both personally and within a relationship.

As with everything this is my opinion, take what you will and leave the rest. If you wish to contact me, my email address is Norisch1@mchsi.com . If you wish to see more of my work you may find a complete listing of all my writings at... http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Norisches_Quill/?yguid=99788111 in the files section.