Let's Play Twenty Questions

Creating a slave file

By Norische

When one makes the discussion to take a slave there are many pieces of information that every Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme should ask for. I have talked to Master’s who have no idea what medication, if any, their slave takes, and others who have never asked about education or even criminal records. Most of the time lack of information can be at the least inconvenient at most it can be dangerous. Let me ask just a few questions and see how much you know about your slave/submissive, then you can judge if you need to have a slave file or not.

Does your slave have a criminal record, if so for what?
Has your slave ever used any form of illegal drugs, if so what and when?
Has your slave ever had any form of major surgery, if so what and when?
Does your slave take any medications, if so...
What type of medication does your slave take?

What is the medication for?

How often does your slave need to take the medicine?

What pharmacy does he/she use to fill their prescription?

Are their any medications or foods that may react badly with the prescription?
What is the name of your slave’s doctor?
Does your slave have insurance, if so what is the name of the insurance company and what type of coverage does he/she have?
Does your slave have any allergies, if so to what, and what normally happens during an allergic reaction?
What is the license plate number of your slave’s car?
Who is your slave’s closest relative and what is this person’s phone number?
What level of education does your slave have?
What is your slave’s social security number or driver’s license number?
Has your slave been tested for Sexually Transmitted Diseases including HIV/AIDS, if so when and what were the results?
What different jobs has your slave held in the past five years, and how long was he/she at each, also why did he/she leave?
What different groups does your slave belong to, within the lifestyle as well as outside the lifestyle?
Who was your slave’s last sexual partner, also what was their relationship?
Has your slave ever gone through counseling and if so what are the details surrounding this?
Does your slave have any phobia, such as to snakes, heights, closed in places, if so what is the phobia, and to what degree are they affected?
How much money does your slave owe and to whom?
Has your slave ever won an award if so for what?
Are yours slave’s parents living or not, also does your slave have siblings, if so what are their names?

There you have it 20 questions, no problem right... could you answer all of them? If not then you need to set up a slave file. There is a lot of information out there that unfortunately may be necessary to have one day. I know, I know... most people say "My sub is only here on the weekends so why do I need to keep a whole bunch of useless information sitting around?" The answer is simple... let me give you an example.

Example 1: You go out to dinner with your slave and she orders the General Toa’s Chicken, after about 3 bites she starts clearing her throat, 5 minutes later she is lying on the floor of the restaurant unconscious. It isn’t until after you are riding in the back of the ambulance watching the paramedic put IV’s into her arm that you are informed she is having an allergic reaction, and it isn’t until you have spent 4 hours in the emergency room that you realize she is severely allergic to peanuts.

Example 2: You get a call at 3:00am; the officer found your number in her wallet and wants to know if you know Jane Doe. There has been a car accident and she is in a coma at the Regency Hospital. When you get to the hospital you are plummeted with questions, does she have any living relatives, does she have insurance, is she allergic to penicillin, how about morphine, does she have a living will? Question after question are asked, you do your best and set in a daze while answering the endless barrage of questions. Finally you are allowed to see her, it doesn’t look good, they suggest you make some calls to relatives and friends just in case. You spend the next several hours rummaging through her stuff looking for information, phone numbers of friends and family members.

Example 3: Your slave is driving you to work and is pulled over for a taillight being out. The officer runs his license through and finds out there is a warrant out for his arrest. Your slave is cuffed and placed in the back of the patrol car and you spend the next several hours getting things straightened out. You find out that your slave wrote some bad checks about 3 years ago and failed to show up for a court date. After $1800.00 in fines, and $693.00 in paying the checks, as well as a new trial, community service and a sentence to 3 yrs probation, things are finally taken care of.

These are just three examples of some of the problems that could very well occur. How does one avoid such things, well unfortunately there may be no way to avoid accidents, or problems. However one can be prepared, in example one it would have only taken a simple question, "Are you allergic to anything?" In example two it takes a little time and effort to get the contact information from your slave and have it written down as well as the vital medical information. In example three well let’s just say that some questions are really stupid not to ask, but unfortunately sometimes they get overlooked. So now that you realize that there is some valuable information that does need to be shared the next question should be is what questions should I ask? I have made up a general list of requirements that I have for my slaves/submissives, understand that these are just some of the basic, there will be other questions or requirements that you want to add.

Copy of birth certificate, or copy of driver’s license and social security card.
Copy of high school or college degree, and/or copy of transcripts of any college attended. Also any certificates for classes taken.
Copy of marriage license, divorce decree, or annulment (where applicable).
Copy of car registration, and insurance.
Recent photograph, preferably one in color as well as one in black and white.
Full medical records, if not available from doctor, I request a complete disclosure of medical history be provided.
A complete listing of all medications taken, when, and for what.
A complete listing of Doctor, and Dentist information, don’t forget that they may have specialists, like gynecologist, optometrist, or chiropractor. You want the names, addresses and phone numbers of each one... it might also be helpful to get a little history on each as well.
A list of any allergies, their reactions, and treatments.
A copy of the most recent HIV test results. Should be less than a year old.
A list and explanation of any phobias that the slave has as well as how they would react.
Psychological records, for any counseling, therapy, or psychological evaluations that have been done, if records are not available then I request a full disclosure and history provided.
Criminal records, I request a complete disclosure of any legal action, from a parking ticket to a class D Felony and every thing in between.
Complete disclosure of all relationships, this should include everything from the first sexual experience up to and including the present. Details are very important so the more information the better. Sometimes all the slave/sub can do is put down a first name or "the guy from work" but just be as thorough as possible. This may be very important if the issue of HIV/AIDS, other sexually transmitted diseases, even pregnancy comes into your relationship.
An up to date resume.
A submissive play list, or check list.
A complete list of all Dom/Dommes that he/she has served under or significant experiences within the BDSM lifestyle, as well as details on the relationships or scenes.
A complete list of any formal training within the BDSM lifestyle.
A complete list of addresses that the slave has had in the past 5 – 10 yrs.
A complete list of relatives, and friends to be contacted in case of emergency, make sure you get full names, phone numbers and addresses.
Complete financial disclosure, such as bank used, checking and savings acct information, credit card information, and all school loan or car loan information, it might also be useful to get a copy of the previous years tax returns.
A complete list of groups, associations, and memberships.
A complete list of email addresses, as well as the passwords for the accts.
References if available.
Church affiliation.
A copy of a living will, or durable power of attorney.

I know all this seems like a lot but honestly when it comes down to it the more information the better. There are a lot of pieces of information that I put in the file as I go, things I have found out about the slave that I think are important. Things like...

Favorite flower
Favorite gemstone
Favorite color
Shoe size
Dress size
Pant size
Underwear size
Shirt size
Ring size
Favorite type of food (Mexican, Italian)
Favorite pet
Collections
Hobbies
Favorite music
Favorite author
Favorite actor
Favorite actress
Favorite movie
Favorite alcoholic beverage
Favorite beverage
Religion

Lots and lots and lots more.

Everyone puts different information in, and sometimes the files get pretty big. However, when ever I need the information... whether it is to make a life and death decision or to pick out a birthday present I have the information.

There are a lot of reasons to make such a file, but I can only think of two reasons not to make it either you don’t care, or just pure laziness. Sure it takes time and sure it takes a lot of work, but believe me it is worth it.

I have put together a file about myself with much of this information in it for my slaves/submissives and believe me it gives them a feeling of security, they know I am serious about the relationship and that I am willing to take the time to give them that piece of mind.

If you have any questions or comments feel free to write Norisch1@mchsi.com.