Breastfeeding and Induced lactation in the Age Play Mommy
by Little Lost Girl
I was recently asked about breastfeeding on an age play
list that I enjoy. I really love breastfeeding adult kids
and have a lot of experience with breastfeeding in general,
so I thought I'd share my thoughts about it.
So how do you induce lactation?
I've taken some time out from it for the last few years,
but I am planning on inducing lactation again. I've breastfed
for over two years straight before, so inducing it again doesn't
seem too challenging to me. The last time my partner was here
for a few weeks it started to come in again just from his suckling.
Most of the time I see writing that talks about spending
at least 30 minutes a day with an electronic breast pump
and going off birth control pills if you happen to be on them.
I've found the human mouth far superior to electric breast pumps,
but I think some sites are shy about bringing that up because of
the "taboo" of an adult partner enjoying the feeding.
I totally agree with going off birth control pills if you want
to give milk though, because I have found they at least sharply
cut your chances of having a good production.
Breast massage and nipple stimulation of just about any type
helps. I think it works best in a warm shower, especially if
you include a "milking" motion. (That means you start
WAY back on the breast rather than just pinching the nipple.) I
know it sort of sounds new age like, but I find milk
"drops" much faster if I think VERY nurturing
thoughts and imagine the sounds of a crying child.
Getting really turned on helps too, that may sound strange
but it isn't. The hormones released when you get turned on
helps in milk flow also. That is why some women who breastfeed
get all tense about getting really turned on during lovemaking,
sometimes they accidentally hose down their partner with milk
when they orgasm.
I think everyone will have their own psychological trigger
that will help their milk come in. Whatever it is, sort of
meditating on that while you go through your breast massage
Some folks get a prescription for drugs that help to induce
lactation, but I don't think I'd pursue that option because
I'm not very fond of using chemicals unless I have to. I
generally make sure that my nutrition is ultra good during
those times that I try to bring milk back, since good nutrition
seems to really contribute to the ability to give milk.
I'm thinking about using some soy products at the beginning
this next time I induce, and then suddenly stopping. The
increase in estrogen like substance followed by the sudden
drop might make the process move along quicker. It can take
months to bring in milk, so you have to be patient. Most
women seem to be able to do it in 4 to 6 weeks, but don't
give up if it doesn't happen that quickly.
The literature says women who induce lactation skip
the colostrum phase, but I don't. I don't know why that
is, but I always get colostrum first. I've checked with
my doctor and I'm sure it isn't anything OTHER than
colostrum, and they just sort of shrug and say that
some folks are different.
The pre-milk (colostrum stuff) is pretty cool too
though, and that comes in pretty quick for me.
Colostrum reminds me of cooking oil. It stands in
sharp contrast to my milk, which is a super super
sweet type that sort of tastes like sugar milk.
That might fall into the category of too much
information, but I thought maybe you'd want to
know the taste difference between those materials
and that regardless of what the literature says
colostrum CAN happen. If you aren't SURE that is
what it is you might want to talk to a doctor
though. I'd hate for someone to ignore a sign
of cancer simply thinking that colostrum was
Why would a person want to do this with an adult partner?
Lots of reasons.
The first is that it is just a really nurturing experience.
A primal sort of affection, tenderness, protectiveness, and
bonding occurs when I breastfeed a partner. I suppose that
isn't a surprise because nature sort of rigs us like that.
Another reason is pleasure. One of the hormones released by
breastfeeding (oxytocin) is the same hormone that helps
produce orgasm. A big source of guilt and fear in bio
mothers who nurse can be that they actually orgasm from
the sensation. That makes some bio moms quit because
they think something is wrong with them, what they
don't realize is their bodies are rigged to enjoy
the sensation. Breastfeeding can be a real pain, so
there had to be some built in incentives to make us
go back and do it again! Ha!
For more info on oxytocin, you can go to:
Hormone Involved In Reproduction May Have Role
In the Maintenance of Relationships by UCSF
It almost makes up for the chapped nipples, nibbles,
and dribbles that must be endured! It is a REALLY
different sensation when you are feeding an AGE PLAY
kid than a bio kid. Since I have a relationship where
it is okay, I can actually explore and build on that
natural situation to take it places I'd never take it
in a REAL breastfeeding situation with a bio child
and it is okay. For anyone that cannot understand how
those things could be different, I invite them to think
about the difference between a loving nurturing kiss
you give to a child and the lust filled kiss you give
to a lover. They may consist of SOME of the same things,
but boy are they different and you'd never mix up the two!
Another reason that I enjoy breastfeeding an age play
kid is that I am very fond of the idea of being
"consumed" by a lover. This is one of the
few acts that allow me to really actually FEED a
On the flip side, I like being the one feeding too.
I particularly like it when the woman I feed from (whether
that "woman" be male or female or intersexed)
has never been able to experience breastfeeding in
another way. I like that loving release they feel when
they have the need to be able to experience this
"thing" that seems so nurturing and loving,
but they've never had the chance. I've seen people's
eyes fill with tears when they are finally allowed the
experience they thought they'd never have. It is
beautiful really, an intense bonding I can't explain.
I tend to feed in a very nonsexual and regressive way.
When I am the one breastfeeding an adult little it can
go many ways. I tend to keep it nonsexual and regressive
but will flow with any sexuality that seems to be natural
to the adult little in that circumstance. Some can take a
LOT of sexual content in that situation and some would be
hurt if I introduced it. I follow their lead.
Yet another reason I like to give milk is that I
find I'm much much more orgasmic and the orgasms
seem much more intense when I'm breastfeeding.
That goes back to oxytocin again!
Who do I do this with?
I think most folks would do this with adult babies who
are open to this. I'd think a lot of those seeking it
would be regressive in nature, but I'm not sure.
I have been involved in feeding age play kids from
newborn to teens. I've also been involved in feeding
Non age-play "vanilla" folks who just
enjoy breast milk.
I've fed from males, females, and intersexed folks.
Milk does NOT have to be present for the experience
to be fulfilling for me.
If someone NEEDS milk to be a part of it, but their
partner can't give it for some reason I'd recommend
nursing trainers. Good ones that I'd recommend are the
Supplemental Nutrition System
These products will allow the person to have the adult kid
suckle and receive milk, even if it isn't their own at first.
The suckling WILL increase the likelihood that soon they'll
develop their own. These products are good for age play moms
that just can't produce enough for their adult kid, too.
People with hysterectomies and stuff CAN breastfeed,
since it is something the pituitary gland regulates
rather than ovaries. So, don't let that stop you from
It is also *possible* for a man to breastfeed WITH his
own breast milk. It is pretty rare in our culture, but
some men can give a little milk with extensive nipple
stimulation. If you think I'm full of it go to
Can men breastfeed?
Some folks will say that isn't possible, but I'd love
for them to explain why almost every reputable book on
babies points out that parent's shouldn't panic if they
have a boy baby with enlarged breasts that give small
amounts of milk due to exposure to the mother's hormones.
It can happen, it just rarely happens. It may need hormones
to happen, but it CAN happen.
From what I understand it is also talked about in a few
books. If you have an interest in pursuing genetic male
lactation you could try:
"Why Is Sex Fun? The Evolution of Human
Sexuality " Jared Diamond [Why don't men
breastfeed their babies. The non-evolution of
male lactation] 1997
"Breast Feeding and Human Lactation,":
Jan Riordan & Kathy Auerbach 1993
"Breastfeeding: a Guide for the Medical
Profession," Ruth Lawrence 1989
I'd think genetic males would have an easier time of
lactating if they DID take hormones, but I don't know
if that has been studied or not. I have heard they have
better success if they dissolve a tablet containing
oxytocin under their tongue when their partner starts
to suck on them. (That helps some women too.) The thing
is, you have to get a prescription for that. La Leche
League MAY help you with that, but I'm not sure.
If you've had surgery on your breasts, you might have
trouble breastfeeding regardless of your gender. Women
can USUALLY breastfeed after breast enlargement and stuff,
but sometimes they can't.
What are some safety things to be aware of?
I wouldn't bind, put intense pressure on, or allow any
intense impact to breasts that are being conditioned for
lactation. On top of making it harder for milk to come
in, it is easier in my belief to injure them. The breasts
can become very HARD with milk, and whacking them is a
very bad idea that might harm internal structures or make
someone more likely to have a blocked milk duct.
If you take hormones to induce lactation I'm sure there
are all sorts of cautions, but people would have to talk
to their doctor about that.
Hormones DO shift during breastfeeding so some folks
have weird shifts in sex drive and menstrual cycles.
If I'm breastfeeding a lot I tend to no longer have
periods and have a sex drive that shoots through the
roof. I also need to use more lube though, because for
some reason it causes a sort of... er... arid quality.
I think that prolactin might be to blame for that. It
is the part of the hormone cocktail of lactation
that can kill libido.
Milk is obviously a body fluid too, so it is important
to consider what may be transferred via that fluid. I
tend to only do this with fluid bonded partners, and I
think I'd be sure to check with breastfeeding resources
and my doctor before deciding something "couldn't"
be transferred via breast milk.
Other cautions are more like irritations. You can get
chapped nipples. You can get CRACKED nipples. You can
experience clogged milk ducts, which can become serious
if you don't get it taken care of.
La Leche League
is the mother of all breastfeeding info in that regard.
If you produce enough milk, you may have to wear a softer
and more comfy bra with some pads to soak up any breast
leakage. That is a pain because those pads show through
thin blouses. It is also a pain when you DON'T wear the
pads and you find yourself suddenly leaking down your
shirt. That can be embarrassing.
If you are in transition from one physical sex to the
other, you should consult the doctor helping you with
it about how your transition may be impacted.
What is nursing an adult age play partner like?
In a word, WONDERFUL. As a mommy to an adult kid it is
wonderful to feel the closeness and the contentment on
the part of my partner and I.
It also just feels good. If you wonder what milk feels
like when it comes out, that is sort of tricky to explain.
It sort of depends on how much is coming out and how much
you are producing. For me, it has mostly felt like my breasts
are harder and more tender. They feel "full" and
ache until I let someone feed. When the milk drops there is
a sort of tingly feeling in my nipples and an urgent feeling.
Then when a partner latches on it feels like a tremendous
wave of pleasure and release. I can feel the breast becoming
softer and less full. I feel liquid being pulled from me.
There are also the pleasurable swallow motions of my partner.
Aside from all the tenderness and love it inspires, it also
tends to make me very physically excited and close to orgasm
(or even on some occasions is responsible for orgasm).
As a little, it just feels comforting. I like the taste
of flesh in my mouth. I haven't had a partner who gave
milk, but I was able to suck on my own breasts when I
nursed for over two years. I looked like a freak at the
time because I was 120lbs with 40DD breasts, so it was
possible and comfortable. I looked like I'd tip over
though, hahaha. Now my breasts are a LOT smaller than
that and I weigh more, so I think it would be a bit
trickier now. Anyway, when I could feed from myself
I enjoyed the super sweet candy quality of the milk.
Aside from those things, in sexual age play it can be
very erotic to give that constant stimulation to a
partner in a situation where their "job"
is mainly to accept the wonderful sensation.
Nursing an age play kid can be very rewarding, and
inducing lactation can be a fun experiment. If you
are interested in doing it, I suggest you spend some
time reading up on current resources available on the
web for women interested in inducing lactation. I also
suggest calling La Leche League if you need help
getting your breast milk to come in. I wouldn't
suggest you go into the sexual interest in it, but
rather stay focused on the actual breast milk production
itself. Don't get discouraged if it takes awhile, the
process should be an enjoyable one rather than a stress
producer. I find that I get the best results when I'm
not trying very hard and I'm simply enjoying the
sensations of it.