The Difference Between SM and Abuse

a statement from the Lesbian Sex Mafia

SM	ABUSE
An SM scene is a controlled situation.	Abuse is an out-of-control situation.
Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what will and will not happen in that scene.	One person determines what will happen.
Knowledgeable consent is given to the scene by all parties. No consent is asked for or given.	The "bottom" has a safe word that allows them to stop the scene at any time they need to for physical or emotional reasons. The person being abused cannot stop what is happening.
Everyone involved in the SM scene is concerned about needs, desires, and limits of others. No concern is given to the needs, desires, and limits of the abused person.	The people in the SM scene are careful to be sure that they are not impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene. Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.
After an SM scene, the people involved feel good. After an episode of abuse, the people involved feel bad.

Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is a group for lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual, and transsexual women who are interested in exploring SM, fetishes, BD, and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual, and confidential way.

For more info on Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM):

Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM)
P.O. Box 993
Murray Hill Station
New York, NY 10156
212-726-3844
LSMNYC@hotmail.com