The following information is Extremely Important. Just because you are a submissive male or a Dominant Female for that matter, does not make you immune from a dangerous or potentially deadly experience. Please take all necessary precautions when meeting anyone you wish to play with whether they are Dominant or submissive.

Subject: [BDSM and...] Warning... R/L story

The author shall remain nameless.

As you are aware, I have just read the latest on Kate, a friend who was one of the women who went to visit the infamous "slavemaster" in Kansas City. He is the alleged serial killer who is also being charged by Kate and others with Sexual Assault. At Wendy's request, I am sending this to you, to send on to your Subhaven list, so that, just maybe, we can convince some folks that the need for "safe calls" is not a theory, but is a very definite real need to solve real dangers.

In early April, Kate contacted me. She did not know me, but said she was relatively new to the area, and had a situation that needed advise. She told me about the gentleman in Kansas City and about a planned trip to meet him. She did not know his home phone, or his home address. (He was "worried about subs stalking him" because he was so rich). She did not know what hotel she was going to.

My first advice was to not go. Get to know him better for a while. That was not acceptable to Kate. So I stressed the need for some form of safe call. I suggested that she meet only in public and that if they do go some place privately that it be to her hotel room and no place else. She got me the hotel name, the hotel room number, the hotel phone number, and his cell phone number. We arranged for safe calls during her stay.

The "gentleman" in question was very angry that she had set up a safe call, especially with a male dom. It showed that "she did not trust him". He tried hard to make her feel guilty about this lack of trust. (Please remember this the next time someone you do not know tries to make you feel guilty because you do not offer your trust before meeting them). But she stuck with it. She called at the correct times. She met him only in the hotel. She came home safe ( not happy, not excited by her visit---but safe).

He tried after this to throw more lies at her, to make her feel like the bad things that happened were all her fault. He was very charming, very smooth, and almost made a very bright lady fall for his "line". Before it was too late, Kate did the smart thing. She put a stop to it. And she went to the police.

Please pay attention to the safety issues "preached" by our community. They are not taught for theoretical reasons. They are taught because there are real dangers out there. There are some real bad people who hide behind BDSM to find victims. Please do not become a victim, or a statistic.

BDSM can be safe. It can be a lot of fun, exciting, and create great bonds between people. Just use a bit of common sense. Pay attention. Absolutely, no question, all the time, when meeting people you do not know, USE SAFE CALLS------100% OF THE TIME.

Please feel free to forward to any submissives lists that you may be on or other lists where this may help someone. Please, let's help save a life!

Females in Control