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Abbreviations Used in Chat Rooms and Emails


Many of the acronyms below are used throughout the net. The emphasis of this list, however, is to cover the acronyms that are commonly used in one newsgroup: alt.sex.bondage (ASB). My goal is to help make the postings in that group understandable to those new to the group. There will always be some uncommon acronyms that aren't on this list, and I may miss some others. I'm trying to keep the list as short as possible while still achieving adequate coverage.

Note that the exact translation of some of these is subject to some dispute. IMHO, the definitions here are close enough to get the idea across, even if you disagree about the exact wording.

Given the choice, I'd prefer to have corrections and arguments via Email, rather than starting another long thread about acronyms.

Frites (an94951@anon.penet.fi)


AAMOF As A Matter Of Fact
ABP Alt.Binary.Pictures
ABPE* Alt.Binaries.Pictures.Erotica /.* (.bondage, .leather, etc.)
AD(H)D Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorders
AFAIK As Far As I Knows
AFAICT As Far As I Can Tells
AIUI As I Understand Its
AKA Also Known Ass
ASAP As Soon As Possibles
ASB Alt.Sex.Bondages
ASF* alt.sex.fetish .*s
ASFD alt.sex.femdom alt.sex.fetish.diaperss
ASS Alt.Sex.Spanking //Stories, depending on contexts
ATB Alt.Talk.Bestialitys
ATM At The Moments
ATSL Along The Same Lines
AUP Acceptable Use Policys
AWGTHTGTTA Are We Going To Have To Go Through This Agains
AWHFY Are We Having Fun Yets
B&D Bondage and Disciplines
B4 Befores
B4N Bye For Nows
BAC By Any Chances
BAG(L) Busting A Gut (Laughing)s
BBM Big Beautiful Mans
BBS Bulletin Board Services
BBW Big Beautiful Womans
BCNU Be Seeing Yous
BDSM Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sado-Masochism.s
BDSMLMNOP BDSM and whatever else we might dos
BION Believe It Or Nots
BPD Borderline Personality Disorders
BRB Be Right Backs
BSTS Better Safe than sorrys
BTA But Then Agains
BTDT Been There, Done Thats
BTSOOM Beats The Shit Out Of Mes
BTW By The Ways
BWG Big Wide Grins
BYKT(A) But You Knew That (Already)s
CB(C&B) Cock and Balls
CBT Cock and Ball Torture/Trainings
CHUDWAH Clueless Het Dom Wannabes
CHUSWAH Clueless Het Sub Wannabes
CIS Complete and Irrevocable Submissions
CMIIW Correct Me If I'm Wrongs
CNC Consensual Non Consents
CP Corporal Punishments
CTS Carpal Tunnel Syndromes
CU (L8R) (S) See You (Later) (Soon)s
CYA Cover Your Asss
D&S or D/s Dominance and Submissions
DKF Dreaded Koosh Floggers
DL Downloads
DLTDHYITAOYWO Dont Let The Door Hit You In The Ass On Your Way Outs
DMQ Do-Me Queens
DOYKB Down On Your Knees, Bitchs
DQOTD Dumb Question Of The Days
EIP Everything Is Permissibles
EMFBI Excuse Me For Butting Ins
EOD End Of Discussions
EOL End Of Lectures
EOM End Of Messages
ETLA Extended Three Letter Acronyms
F2F Face to Faces
FA Fat Admirer, one who prefers a fat sexual/romantic partners
FAQ Frequently Asked Question(s)s
FITB Fill In The Blanks
FTMP For The Most Parts
FTR For The Records
FUBAR F'ed Up Beyond All Repair (or Recognition)s
FWIW For What It's Worth...s
FYI For Your Informations
GD&R Grinning, Ducking, and Running (after a smart ass comment)s
GLBTH Gay,Lesbian,Bi,Trans,Hets
GMTA Great Minds Think Alikes
GOK God Only Knowss
GOWI Get On With Its
GS Golden Shower/Getting Starteds
HNG Horny Net Geeks
HWNINS He whose name is not spokens
HTH Hope This Helpss
IAC In Any Cases
IAE In Any Events
IANAL I Am Not A Lawyers
IAP Internet Access Providers
ICOCBW I Could Of Course Be Wrongs
IDK I Don't Knows
IETGFTP it's easier to get forgiveness than permissions
IIRC If I Recall Correctlys
IM Instant Message (AOL version of /msg)s
IMAO In My Arrogant Opinions
IME In My Experiences
IMHO In My Humble Opinions
IMNSHO In My Not So Humble Opinions
IMSLTHO In My Slightly/Somewhat Less Than Humble Opinions
IMO In My Opinions
IMX In My eXperience (perferred form: IME)s
IOW In Other Wordss
IRC Internet Relay Chats
IRT In Reply To, In Regards Tos
ISO In Search Ofs
ISP Internet Service Providers
ISTM It Seems To Mes
ISTR I Seem To Recalls
ITMT In The MeanTimes
ITYM I Think You Means
ITSFWI If The Shoe Fits, Wear Its
IYKWIM(AITYD) If You Know What I Mean (And I Think You Do)s
JAFO Just Another F**king Observers
JOOC Just Out of Curiositys
KHYF Know How You Feels
KTB Kali's Teeth Bracelets
L8R Laters
LART Luser Attitude Readjustment Tool (i.e.: clue-by-four)s
LMAO Laughing My Ass Offs
LOL Laughing Out Louds
LTNS Long Time No See!s
LTR Long Term Relationships
MOTSS/OS/AS Member of the Same Sex/Opposite Sex/Appropriate Sexs
MOTOPS Member of the Oppositely-Plumbed Sexs
MPD Multiple Personality Disorders
mung Mash Until No Goods
MYOB Mind Your Own Businesss
NAAFA National Association to Advance Fat Acceptances
NC Non-Consensuals
NFR Not Flame Relateds
NG News Group / No Goods
NIMBY Not In My Back Yards
NL New Leathers
NLA National Leather Associations
NP No Problems
OGL Old Guard Leathers
OIC Oh, I Sees
OL Old Leathers
OT Off Topics
OTBE OverTaken By Eventss
OTOH On The Other Hands
OTW One True Ways
P&M Posted & Maileds
PCF Puritanical Control Freakss
PDA Public Displays of Affections
PISS Passive Ignorance Silence Strikes
PITA Pain In The Asss
PMFJI, PMJI Pardon Me (For) Jumping Ins
POV Point Of Views
PS PostScripts
PSA Public Service Announcements
PTSS Post Traumatic Stress Syndromes
RL Real Life (sometimes written as r/l)s
ROFL Rolling On the Floor Laughing (there are variations)s
ROTF Rolling On The Floor (Usually seen as ROFL)s
RT Real-Time/Rise Time/Radiation Therapy/RighT (as opposed to Left)s
RTFM Read the F*g Manual!s
RW Real Worlds
SAM Smart Assed Masochists
s.c.f.t.h.i. Smiley Captiond for the Humor-Impaireds
SM, S&M Sado-Masochism, Sex Magicks
SMOF Secret Master Of Fandoms
SO Significant Others
SOW Speaking Of Whichs
SQO Some Quantity Ofs
SSB or SSBB Soc.Subculture.Bondage /-BDSM (I prefer just SSB, myself)s
SSC Safe, Sane, Consensuals
SSS Soc.Sexuality.Spankings
STD/STI Sexually Transmitted Disease / .. Infections
STTNG Star Trek, The Next Generations
TAF That's All Folkss
TAFN That's All For Nows
TANJ There Ain't No Justices
TBH To Be Honests
TD "Top's Disease"s
TES The Eulenspiegel Societys
TFTB Topping From The Bottoms
TIA Thanks In Advances
TIC Tongue in Cheeks
TINC There Is No Cabals
TLA Three Letter Acronyms
TOS Terms Of Service / The Original Seriess
TOTBAL There Ought To Be A Laws
TPE Total Power Exchanges
TPTB The Powers That Bes
TTBOMK To The Best Of My Knowledges
TTFN Ta Ta For Nows
TV also stands for TransVestites
TYVM Thank You Very Muchs
VBG Very Big Grins
Wiitwd(h) What it is that we do (here)s
WOA Work Of Arts
WRT With Respect Tos
WYSIWYG What You See Is What You Gets
XGMC Xiphias Gladius Memorial Cliques
YKINMK Your Kink Is Not My Kinks
YKINOK Your Kink Is Not Okays
YKIOK,IJNMK Your Kink is OK, It's Just Not My Kinks
YMBJ You Must Be Jokings
YMMV Your Mileage May Varys
<g> grin (or <G> big grin, vars. incl <VEG> Very Evil Grin)s
!= Not equal tos
:-) A "smiley" face (sideways); there are lots of variations

If these acronyms are new to you, then there are two other things you probably should read. The "Welcome to ASB" contains valuable information about this (ASB) newsgroup and BDSM on the net. The ASB FAQ contains lots of good information on what BDSM is and the actual practice of it, including safety information. Both are available via gopher to //unix.tpe.com/11/outreach/online/usenet/bondage (Select "sm leather & Fetish community outreach", "online SM", "leather and Fetish Resources", "Usenet Newsgroups". The FAQ is also available via FTP from (/pub/usenet-by-group/alt.sex.bondage). The Welcome is also available via Email request to arsmith@holly.ColoState.edu.

Further Details from Big Al:

Androphile - One who loves men. Note that this says nothing about the sex or orientation of the one doing the loving.

ASB - Shorthand for alt.sex.bondage

Bisexual - One who orients towards males and females.

BDSM - A catchall phrase made up of B&D (Bondage and Discipline) D&S (Dominance and Submission) and S&M (Sadism and Masochism). It describes alternate sexuality in general, except bestiality and orientation variations. Oftentimes there is some blurring of the lines among the three types, fetish play, etc., so BDSM makes a useful term.

Bondage - The act of restraining someone's movements, usually in a sexual context.

Bottom - The person who, in B&D or S&M play, is restrained, recieving the beatings, cuttings, etc.

Cane - A long, thin (usually flexible) rod used to strike a bottom.

CIS - "Complete Irrevocable Submission." Rather self-explanatory.

Chudwah - (From CHDW) a Clueless Het-Dom Wannabe. Chudwahs don't get a whole lot of respect. They often send wannafucks. (As I recall, The Horseman also came up with this term.)

Dominance and Submission - The act of exchanging control of one of the participants. Some feel this is accomplished only if the submissive has exchanged all power, and has no way of deciding their fate.

Dominant - In D&S play, the one who controls.

Femdom - A dominant woman. The systems of D&S where a woman is dominant.

Fetish - A sexual attraction to an object, body part, etc. not usually associated with sex. Common examples are latex and feet.

Flogger - A whip of more than one tail.

Fnord - A small blue plush creature whom you are enamored of. (The exact reasoning behind "whom you are enamored of" is slightly long and convoluted, and doesn't make a whole lot of difference anyway unless you're talking to him. This is one of those terms that didn't seem to make it outside the computer-based groups.)

Gynophile - One who loves women. Note that this says nothing about the sex or orientation of the one doing the loving.

Heterosexual - One who orients towards members of the opposite sex.

HNG - Horny Net Geek. Often sends wannafucks.

Homosexual - One who orients towards members of the same sex.

IMO - In My Opinion. There are a LOT of variants on this.

Kink - One's sexual or semisexual leanings, enjoyments, etc.

Masochist - One who enjoys experiencing pain.

Master< - Synonym for Dominant. Not used by everyone into D&S.

Pistachio - An ice cream flavor. Symbolic for BDSM. See Vanilla.

Rack - A medieval torture device. To my knowledge, not used in BDSM play since the industrial revolution. A (hopefully) rigid frame used to secure the bottom during a scene. Used after the industrial revolution.

Sadist - One who enjoys giving pain.

Safe Word - Some form of signal that the participants in a scene use to stop slow, or otherwise take the scene out of a dangerous situation. Depending on who you ask, this may or may not be a good idea, and may or may not affect the power dynamics of a scene profoundly.

Safe, Sane, Consensual - This, I feel, is what constitutes acceptable BDSM play on asb. Exactly what this IS has some variability to it, though.

Scene - B&D, S&M, and sometimes D&S are arranged into scenes, short periods during which the BDSM play takes place.BDSM in general, its participants, and their organizations.

Sie/Hir - Gender-neutral pronouns, which the english language has a distinct lack of. There is some debate amongst asb linguists over whether sie and hir should be used at all, and the reader is encouraged to decide on their own. (I, personally, am all for it, but I'm trying not to do it here.)

Sillyopheran - One of several asb posters recognized for their ability to post funny things to asb.

Slave - Synonym for submissive. Not used by everyone into D&S.

Squick - asb: a violently aversive reaction to a particular kink, often involving nausea. Formulated by STella. any aversive reaction. alt.tasteless: to remove the top of someone's skull and have sex with the hole. Legend has it that this was introduced to at by an asber who was having some fun.

Submissive - In D&S play, the one who gives up control.

Switch - One who enjoys both the top and bottom or dom and sub roles. Or all four.

Top - The person who, in B&D or S&M play, is restraining, beating, cutting, etc.

TPE - For Total (or True) Power Exchange. A form of D&S (or, depending on who you ask, the only form of D&S) where the submissive gives up all power to the dominant. Also a BBS in Washington, DC (only that's The Power Exchange).

Vanilla - A very common ice cream flavor. Also used to describe the non-alternative versions of sexuality and people who practice them exclusively.

Wannafuck - An unsolicited sexually graphic piece of email. Posters who self-identify as female often get these. Posters who self-identify as male get them too, but less often.

YMMV - Your Milage may vary. Or, Yaks Make More Volkswagons, depending on your mood.